How do fights begin in relationships?

[City]

I would love to hear some stories.

[rianne]

I think it's the little things that add up. Or when the other does something stupid. Or a combination of the two.

[inthestorm]

I think when people are not totally honest and willing to share what is going on in their own world outside of the relationship. I know my biggest problem is living like a single while being married. My husband and I are two different people with two totally different personalities. He never stifles my need to go places and do things so sometimes I forget to put the reigns on and just pass on a few things and stay home with him. If that makes sense. It's Monday and it hurts to think.

[mary]

I think fights start when both people are not honest with each other. If something is bothering the one person (about the other) and they don't speak up, things will add up. I think sometimes people can over react to a small issue, making the other person get angry as well. I actually have an issue with something my boyfriend does and I plan on telling him about it, but I don't plan on doing it in a confronting, accusatory way. He smokes and he knows I don't like it, so rather than yell at him and tell him he cant, I nicely asked him to not smoke when he is with me. And he was ok with it...we didn't fight. We compromised. And I think thats another thing that can cause fights...the lack compromising.

Also...cheating causes fights.

[thinkaboutgoo]

I think fights start with lies or deciet. And acting like you are single when you are married. We fight alot about money or lack there of it.

[gogonutz]

I could come with statistics and say the most causes of fights in relationships are about money, children, or 'time for eachother'. But I think the real problem is that there's a lack of communication.

[jolene102]

sometimes fights just happen out of stress or being tired. i know i get really grumpy when i'm tired and can overact to things. i shouldn't admit this, but girls, especially myself, take things out of context. although, guys do say dumb things. i know they don't mean to be hurtful in their words, but sometimes it just comes across wrong. guys and girls brains are wired different.
and i just realized i was talking about heterosexual relationships, but that's all i know about.

[inthestorm]

gogonutz said:

I could come with statistics and say the most causes of fights in relationships are about money, children, or 'time for eachother'. But I think the real problem is that there's a lack of communication.

I think that really is the bottom line, communication is one of the major foundations of a relationship.

[tonya]

Koen is right. It is absolutely lack of communication. I would also add it is unwillingness to compromise. You can't expect your partner to know what you're thinking or what you want every minute of every day nor can you be selfish in relationships and expect them to be successful.

[Jessi]

fights start over being selfish, pockets (haha), communication, distance, etc. Fights suck.

[klein]

here's an other one.... misunderstandings/misinterpretations...

[thinkaboutgoo]

Yes definatly communication. I also agree about the being tired comment too.