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Post by cayters on Jan 22, 2009 10:42:26 GMT -5
I noticed that Cayte is moving to Holland!?  EXCITING!!!! I can't wait! I am happy for her and Koen hehe Yep.  Thanks Kat... I am excited too... but also nervous! And good luck with all your wedding preparations. |
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Post by FrancisMartin on Jan 22, 2009 17:23:29 GMT -5
Update: I'm working, again. My contract ended last Wednesday and Thursday morning i was at another university, were I'll have diferent job functions. Weird, isn't it? I hope everything works fine for me... Francisco, I wish you all of the best in your new position! I've been buried in work over the last week and am just now catching up. How fortunate for you that you had no lapse in employment! Oh, thanks you, dear Karen. I was lucky for having no lapse in employment...But i also know that i did a lot to deserve it. I had good references from important persons who were very happy with my last 2 years at the laboratory. Weird that I'm not working at the lab anymore but life goes on. Who knows if i can't return when the financial problem disappears? And thank you everyone for your good vibes, they helped, a lot. |
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Post by FrancisMartin on Jan 22, 2009 17:25:34 GMT -5
I noticed that Cayte is moving to Holland!? EXCITING!!!! I can't wait! I am happy for her and Koen hehe Yep. Thanks Kat... I am excited too... but also nervous! Awwww...! Kat, you're moving to Holland...? Gez, I'm so happy now!That's beautiful! I think I'll need to take a flight to Amsterdam soon. I need to meet you and Koen, together. |
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Post by gogonutz on Jan 22, 2009 21:35:21 GMT -5
haha, Cayte is moving here, Kat isn't (as far as I know  ) but she should be getting pretty excited about her big day!! I hope that will all go amazing Kat And Francisco, do tell me when you have a chance to come over, we'll be sure to hang out! |
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Post by kmom on Jan 22, 2009 22:21:37 GMT -5
I noticed that Cayte is moving to Holland!? EXCITING!!!! I can't wait! I am happy for her and Koen hehe Yep. Thanks Kat... I am excited too... but also nervous! And good luck with all your wedding preparations. Whoa...I was just thinking of you Kat --- TODAY!  and wondering how the wedding plans are going. Also....today, I've been thinking a lot about Cayte and Koen -- was going to IM you both about a 1000 times, but got distracted -- anyway....I'll say it here -- I AM SO EXCITED FOR THE TWO OF YOU TO FINALLY BE TOGETHER SOON  |
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Post by allie on Jan 23, 2009 2:27:25 GMT -5
omg how do i miss so much?! when are you moving over there cayte? and congrats! aw, that is so sweet. so many weddings going on here and in my friends outside of here. one of my best friends is getting married come august, and the other just asked me to be one of her bride's maid! im really excited but oh man. even though im young its making me feel old and behind. lol |
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Post by blufindr on Jan 23, 2009 3:57:57 GMT -5
K, my year so far in a nutshell (since I'm not sure how you will react or if you will still want to know me if you knew the full story):
I have done something I am not very proud of. I think I have fallen for someone I have never met, who I cannot be with for at least another two years for legal reasons, and who (as I have been told) may be a paedophile (yes, it is that 28yo. I'm 16). But for some reason, I can't help but not care. For all that he may be bad for me, he has also been the only person to be able to give me the attention and companionship I no longer get from my boyfriend of nearly 17 months.
For that reason (and others I do not understand, but realise it might be my fault), I have started to fall out of love with Ben. I still love him and wish him the best, and still consider him my boyfriend, but I don't feel the love for him anymore. It is a huge, huge betrayal to not love him, considering all that he has put at stake to be with me; saving my life multiple times, staying up to 4 in the morning to talk me out of a large poison cocktail/noose/knife/needle, taking me to therapy, comforting me as I cried. But I can't in all honesty see a future with him anymore. It's not anything he's done. I just can't do it.
I still can't leave him though. For all that I can't imagine a future with him, I still love him. Just not in the same way. Besides, we have already discussed the possibility of me leaving, and he has made it very clear to me that he can no longer be the person who saves me. Nor would he take me back if I changed my mind or fell back in love with him. For this, we shall try to salvage this shell of a relationship we now share. But in all honesty, I don't like our chances of making this better.
So now you know. I am not proud of any of this. Feel free to flame me if you so wished, because I do realise that what I have done is horridly cruel to men who have been (for better or worse) much better to me than I have deserved. Do not hold back, do not be kind. I do not wish sympathy. I know perfectly well that what I have done is wrong. Don't skimp out on giving me the punishment I know I deserve.
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Post by gogonutz on Jan 23, 2009 5:29:09 GMT -5
Well, realizing what you do, did, have done, is something already. All I can say, because I realize that we don't know each other very well, nor have we talked much, is that out of experience with myself and other people, the only thing you shouldn't do is rush into things.
I hope you can find calmth and through calmth find a good place inside yourself that allows you to make decisions that you feel at peace with. Cause that's what you need to find, peace with yourself and the people around you. If you can find that, then you'll be able to see where the rest of the road will lead.
But since I don't know everything and don't really know you very well, I won't judge nor can I really tell you what you need to do. All I can do is tell you that I wish you the very best and that I hope things work out for you. I'm not saying this because I'm trying to give you sympathy, it's just because I believe everyone deserves something good, and it seems to me like you are due for some good tidings.
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Post by idlewild on Jan 23, 2009 6:28:47 GMT -5
I just sprained my ankle. Gah, right after I finish my exams, and right before Chinese New Year too!  Also made John Cummings, of Mogwai, blush because of something I said. Though I believe he was in heavy influence and company of booze and vodka XD Nevertheless, Mogwai's gig certainly left a huge impression on me. @ Francisco. My mom works in a laboratory too! :] though not a university lab, but anyway, have you ever talked to (your?) students about music and Lifehouse? Lol. Would be so awesome to have a tutor/lecturer to occasionally dabble on about music! @ Kat. How many bridesmaids in total do you have? I just went through my sister's wedding last month and I have to say it was one of the longest days of my life. It's so exhausting being the bridesmaid but extremely worth it when you see the fruits of your labour paying off ;] What flowers are you planning to get for your wedding? All the best with the preparations! @ Koen & Cayte. That is seriously amazing. I'm so glad the both of you will finally leave the long distance behind :] @ Linh. I'm not trying to sound as though I've been through anything like you have, but everyone would certainly have to go through that phase of complicated decisions in coming up with what you really want. What we want, and what we need may never always live in unison. Conscience comes up eventually to bite you in the ass and when this happens you'll start to get really confused. It doesn't always have a to be a happy story in the end, but it doesn't need to be a sad one either. You talked about getting yourself into Uni of San Jose sometime in the near future? Look at that, and look at how you'll be able to tease Chris with his dorkiness when you finally meet him. Things would have to fall into place eventually, come what may |
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Post by FrancisMartin on Jan 23, 2009 7:36:52 GMT -5
haha, Cayte is moving here, Kat isn't (as far as I know ) but she should be getting pretty excited about her big day!! I hope that will all go amazing Kat And Francisco, do tell me when you have a chance to come over, we'll be sure to hang out! Lol, sorry for my mistake...Cayte, please, forgive me...You know Koen only loves you  Oh, i really would love to pay you (and Cayte) a visit. When will she be moving?Next month? Now that low cost flights are everywhere, i can take a plane from Porto at a friday night and return on Sunday night... I've checked Ryan air website but they don't have any flight from Porto to Holland...Weird. Brussels or Frankfurt are very far away from your city?I don't mind to get a train and travel, alone. Gotta check an european map, later. |
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Post by FrancisMartin on Jan 23, 2009 7:53:28 GMT -5
I just sprained my ankle. Gah, right after I finish my exams, and right before Chinese New Year too! @ Francisco. My mom works in a laboratory too! :] though not a university lab, but anyway, have you ever talked to (your?) students about music and Lifehouse? Lol. Would be so awesome to have a tutor/lecturer to occasionally dabble on about music! Oh, that's bad Liz. I really hope you're feeling better now. Yes, i did. Some of them are Lifehouse fans now. That’s curious that you’re asking that because this morning I introduced Lifehouse to one of my new friends (at my new work). She enjoyed, a lot! Next Monday I’ll offer her No Name Face (original and sealed disc). |
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Post by Yuliya on Jan 23, 2009 8:36:26 GMT -5
Whoa, I definitely missed the memo about Koen and Cayte lol. Congrats!! I'm so happy you guys will finally be able to be together! I hope everything goes smoothly with your move!
blufindr- I also am in a position in which I can't really offer advice, but I just wanted to let you know that I really hope you are able to find happiness soon.
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Post by cayters on Jan 23, 2009 10:55:45 GMT -5
haha Francisco, no worries. and thanks everyone! allie: i'm flying over to the netherlands on february 28 (see my countdown in my siggy). yeah i have 2 or 3 friends getting married this year as well... kinda crazy! i know i'm not ready to get married... i mean i'm only 24! |
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Post by klein on Jan 23, 2009 13:41:58 GMT -5
my mom got married at like 18 |
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Post by cayters on Jan 23, 2009 20:35:02 GMT -5
haha well good for her. my mom didn't till she was like 30.. i guess everyone's different! |
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EXCITING!!!! 
Thanks Kat... I am excited too... but also nervous!
) but she should be getting pretty excited about her big day!! I hope that will all go amazing Kat 
and wondering how the wedding plans are going.
. I'd also like to know if anybody has an HD copy of Lifehouse at Pinkpop 2003. BY far their best concert ever
Apr 21, 2018 16:35:38 GMT -5
. I'd also like to know if anybody has an HD copy of Lifehouse at Pinkpop 2003. BY far their best concert ever
Apr 21, 2018 16:35:38 GMT -5